IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF MEGAN ASEFI AND SADEGH ASEFI Upon the Petition of MEGAN ASEFI, n/k/a MEGAN FAULHABER, Petitioner-Appellee, And Concerning SADEGH ASEFI, Respondent-Appellant.
Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Scott County, Mary E. Howes, Judge.
Sadegh Asefi appeals from the district court's modification of the physical care provision of the decree dissolving his marriage to Megan Asefi.
Robert S. Gallagher and Peter G. Gierut of Gallagher, Millage & Gallagher, P.L.C., Bettendorf, for appellant.
Katherine Varlas Teel of McGehee, Olson, Pepping, Balk & Kincaid, Ltd., Silvis, Illinois, for appellee.
Considered by Eisenhauer, C.J., and Potterfield and Tabor, JJ.
Sadegh Asefi appeals from the district court's modification of the physical care provision of the decree dissolving his marriage to Megan Asefi (n/k/a Megan Faulhaber). He argues no material change in circumstances exists to warrant modification, and the court erred in finding Megan could provide superior care. We find the court correctly modified the physical care arrangement.
I. Facts and proceedings.
Megan and Sadegh married in 2008; their marriage was dissolved in August 2011. The parties had one child during the marriage, born in 2010. The stipulated dissolution decree granted the parties joint legal custody and joint physical care. Megan works full time and Sadegh attends chiropractic school. Both parties were raised in different religions, and no religion was chosen for the child. Before and after the dissolution, the parties disagreed over immunizations for the child. Sadegh had never received immunizations as a child for religious reasons, and was unwilling to agree to all of the immunizations recommended. He wanted to research each one before it was administered and had signed a waiver declining immunizations for the child. The child became overdue for immunizations, and Sadegh objected to the "catch-up" schedule of shots. Sadegh arranged for the child to receive chiropractic care every three weeks as a health maintenance issue. Megan objected to the ongoing chiropractic care. The parents discussed these issues over several months between February 2012, when the application to modify was filed, and July 2012. While their e-mails were relatively courteous and civil, they were not able to reach an agreement. Sadegh's schedule at Palmer College of Chiropractic became a problem for the visitation schedule to which the parties had agreed as part of the joint physical care. Megan also filed an emergency application to continue child care arrangements with her mother while Sadegh was in class.
Megan filed an application to modify in February 2012. She stated the following circumstances constituted a material change of circumstances: Sadegh was not regularly exercising his visitation, his living arrangements became unstable, and Sadegh would not share information or discuss the daily care and medical treatment of the child. Megan requested physical care and a changed visitation schedule. The court granted this motion. Sadegh filed a motion for rule to show cause alleging a denial of visitation, which was dismissed by the court.
Sadegh filed a motion to dismiss Megan's application for modification, based on a lack of material change in circumstances. He stated that the parties only disagreed on a day care provider and immunization schedule. His motion to dismiss was denied. The child began receiving immunization shots a few months before trial, though Sadegh was still hesitant regarding how many shots should be given to the child at once. Trial was held on the application to modify on August 23, 2012. Both parties testified, along with Megan's mother and father, Sadegh's mentor, Sadegh's peer, and Sadegh's mother. Several exhibits were admitted, including e-mail correspondence between Sadegh and Megan regarding the child's immunizations. The court made the following findings of fact:
One of the substantial material changes in circumstances the petitioner alleges is that [Sadegh]'s schedule with the child has been messed up since he started Palmer Chiropractic College. The Court does find that this has caused some changes to the schedule. However, this was an event that was clearly contemplated at the time of the Decree and has not affected the situation enough to warrant a substantial change in circumstances.
Megan also alleges a substantial change in circumstances in that the parties cannot agree on the child's medical care and religious upbringing. [Sadegh] does not want the child immunized and she does. The child did not get any immunization shots until July of this year, when he was two years old. And [Sadegh] agreed to no shots until [Megan] filed the Application for Modification of Decree requesting to be the primary caretaker. Although [Sadegh] denies it was the filing of the Application that got him moving on agreeing to immunization, the Court finds that this testimony is not credible. It is clear from the record which contains numerous emails and testimony of the parties that [Sadegh] was against immunizations and only grudgingly agreed after Megan filed the Application for Modification. This is a significant and material disagreement between the parties—the medical care of the child. In addition to the immunizations, they also disagree on chiropractic care for the child. [Sadegh] thinks that he should be regularly visiting a chiropractor even though he is two years old, and he did have the child visiting a chiropractor every three or five weeks when the child was only one year old. Megan disagrees with the necessity of chiropractic care for a two year old. Megan testified the pediatrician did not recommend it, but still [Sadegh] believes it's necessary. Megan testified at the time the Decree was entered she hoped they could reach an agreement on the child's medical care; however, she says they are now in disagreement and between the two of them cannot reach an accommodation. The Court finds this to be true. It is obviously a significant disagreement regarding immunizations and chiropractic care. The Court also finds based on the child's age—two—they could have years of problems if no parent has the ability to make the final decision. Since the child began receiving his immunizations shots so late, the pediatrician recommended a catch-up schedule for the shots to catch him up with other children his age. [Sadegh] did not agree with the catchup schedule the doctor recommended. The Court agrees with Megan that [Sadegh] wants to be in charge of the immunization schedule for the child instead of the doctor. Regardless of what anyone thinks of immunizations and the importance of them, it is obvious that the parties cannot reach an agreement and one of the parties needs to be in charge of the child's medical care. The Court also agrees with Megan that in the future, the child's religious upbringing will need to be decided by one of the parties, [Sadegh] being brought up as a Muslim and Megan being brought up as a Catholic. Although neither parent is devout, they have not reached an agreement regarding the religious upbringing of the child.
The parties disagree on the child's daycare. Right now they have a very nice arrangement for the child where Megan's mother watches [the child] when Megan is at work and [Sadegh] is at Palmer on Monday through Thursday, and then, [Sadegh]'s mother watches the child on Friday when [Sadegh] is in classes. Both grandmothers are excellent caretakers of the child. The Court agrees with Megan that it is in the child's best interest that the child be watched by his grandmothers, if possible, until he is ready for preschool. The Court is convinced based on the evidence that it is a safe and stimulating environment. The Court agrees with Megan that it would be disruptive for the child to go to a separate daycare during the week when [Sadegh] is in classes and has day time visitation. Because, then the child would have three caretakers during the week: daycare, Megan's mother, and [Sadegh]'s mother. The Court also agrees with Megan that if [Sadegh] is in classes, it is disruptive to ...